There were eight posts for this week, and each brought up very interesting points. Some posts discussed things I have been wondering about myself and others brought up points I haven’t even thought of but really appreciated being exposed to.
Starting with the post titled “Luck and Stealth are
for Escape Artists,” there was a particular line that really interested me: “As
smart as Lila is, its Lenù who is the one who ultimately understands that she
has grown too big for the neighborhood.” I had this same thought but didn’t know
how to put it in words, but this explains it perfectly. Lila is incredibly
smart, one could say smarter than Lenù, but in the end, the one who clings onto
the hopes and dreams for something better beyond this neighborhood will prevail
and that happens to be Lenù. Another interesting point was how Lenù picks and
chooses the thoughts and feelings she shares with Lila. I think this fact gives
us a peek into the type of friendship Lenù and Lila share (which in my opinion
is a toxic one).
The next post is titled, “Catcalling and Men’s
Behavior towards Women.” I liked the comparison between how Lenù talks about
boys and how boys do the same. This post highlights the fact that from Lenù’s
point of view the way she describes boys seems to come from an innocent place
while the looks and catcalls her and her friends receive from men sexualize
them. This contrast is important because it brings up a situation in which many
women find themselves in today and I feel like any little experience from which
we can relate to in this narrative can help us navigate the novel through Lenù’s
point of view.
The post titled, “Rivalry and Teamwork,” also had an
interesting point stating, “Lila acts as both Lenù’s inspiration, pushing her
to do well in school, and her antagonist, making her feel inadequate.” This
really got me thinking about the relationship between Lenù and Lila which I’m
constantly confused about. I realize that they both wish the best for each other
and push each other in positive ways but they can also be incredibly cruel to
one another. This quote explains the
complexity of their relationship. This dynamic is one of the main reasons I question
their friendship constantly while reading because in my eyes this is a toxic friendship
that should end. Co- dependency is also a huge factor of Lenù and Lila’s
friendship that I’ve been thinking about while reading as well and I’m glad
that it was mentioned in this post and I’d want to focus in on co-dependency in
their relationship in future posts.
In the post, “Lila Becomes a Women,” a quote that
stuck out to me was, “The way Elena puts herself down when it comes to Lila is
almost scary, as if Elena’s personality is connected to Lila’s.” This also
alludes to the topic of co- dependency that I think we should all explore more
in posts and in discussion. I also liked how Lenù’s view is described in this post
as “obsessive teenager” because I think it’s exactly what Ferrante has managed to
capture and put on paper even as an adult. I agree that it’s hard to successfully
write in this point of view when in the moment you don’t own the mentality of a
teenager. An understanding of the view from which the story is told is necessary
in following the narrative.
A point I found interesting in the post titled, “A Look, a smile, a slap” was the “it” factor that Lila possesses that makes her a person to chase after. The post states, “I like to think its an energy, a free spirit which cannot be defined by just physical beauty.” The reason everyone always seemed so attracted to Lila did puzzle me but maybe its because it also puzzled Lenù and tit s her lens from which the story is being told. I want to say that don’t even think Lenù entirely knows why she is so drawn to Lila. Maybe the “energy” Lila possesses not only attracts boys to seek relationships with her but also why Lila seeks friendship with her.
The post, “Childhood: Proving Oneself,” focused on the
“… very real struggle f carving your own path and finding your identity.” This
theme is very characteristic to childhood itself and I also liked the use of “autonomous
virtuosity” by ferrante and that it was brought into this post. Lenù in this
time of her life like most children is going through the process of figuring
out who she is and how she can navigate her strengths to create a better life
for herself while also creating her own identity.
“Finding One’s Value Through Competition,” talks about
the very evident and constant competition between Lenù and Lila about literally
everything whether its grades or boys. The line in this post, “This is the only
way that Lenù could attempt to make herself feel valuable and accepted,” is
specifically interesting to me because Lenù does seek a lot of her own
validation from being better than Lila and when she fails to be better, her
identity crumbles.
A contrast to the previous post is titled, “Elena’s
Realization: who is more dependent?”. This post talks about the very important
time in Lenù’s development where she changes from thinking she needs Lila to succeed
to thinking Lila may need her more than she had previously thought. This post
describes it as, “Elena is at a place in her life where she finally feels
comfortable and not necessarily inferior to those around her, especially Lila.”
I do agree that this change in Lenù’s view of herself is very important and
shows a great amount of growth.
Overall, I think the majority of these posts talked
about the dynamics surrounding Lenù and Lila’s friendship. Reading these posts
has made me realize that I find the interworking’s of their relationship the
most interesting and the most confusing. I definitely was to focus more on the
co-dependency factor of their friendship and how it affects them both,
negatively and positively and maybe even delve into how toxic it really is.